Hard to invision what thee interior of a family is like… when you don’t live within their walls. The family dynamics are many times very far and distant in personalities, abilities and social skills.
As each steps out, and acquire life experiences, the change in perceptions, spiritually, in every facet of their life as time goes on expands beyond the dynamic of the once family unit.
God did not create us all alike, nor did HE create us all to do the same thing, nor did he want all of us to act the same. God created us in His image and likeness in the uniqueness for our mission for him. We have a journey that he has chosen for each of us. Each to accomplish for the greater good and Glory of him. The challenge here on Earth amongst all of us is that we realize all of life’s experiences affect who we are and how we react. The Beatitude do help! St.Fransic life, of making peace, every where, even in the difficulties.
Every family has emotional investments in one another even in family’s that seemly don’t get along. The old saying, ” bloods thicker than water” rings true.
Love, loyalty, inherited connections exist, good, bad or indifferent. There is always a code of hush on personal family secrets. Even if it caused life long discords and are concealed from the outside world there is always a leak into thee outside world. Thirst for gossip and defaming in this world is what I refer to as, ” salivating in the wait.”
It’s always amazes me the diverse perception of each family member and this is where resentment can come to settle in a family circle, or divided. The expectations of one another, the comparing, competition of wisdom.
Those who express themselves in gossip among the equally opinionated. Then there are usually those who see no concern of themselves or others. Life is lived by each their own way.
So when you come across the family that you thought were great and you find their history is riddled with a painful past,… look back over the years, and know it must not have been easy.
We are a cause and reaction society, no matter your education, income and or title or how deep your faith. You only can stuff negative experiences into a heart for just so long, and then it begins to come back up in a negative behavior.
So acknowledge something… seen or unseen was the cause and effect. One doesn’t know everything!
If you pinch me, or you it hurts. Faith is important, but faith is not always present, even in the faithful. At times we let things bigger than life drive, and forget what we knew. God can help all wounds. God for gave the whore, and offered a stone to the one with no sins.
The story of the prodigal child returning after many sins, and offering him a new cloak the best of food and jewels. God’s always waiting for us to come home, to seek forgiveness and begin a new life in HIM. How do you stay bitter?
My motto, get back in there, love has to always trump, and never forget that, ….and things…though hard at time, will prevail with good.
I believe God gives me strength, the ability to recognize my true choice’s and a conscience to choose HIS will.
There is the challenge, to fight for a family member that is lost, from GOD’S will, and healthy choice’s, or let them fall.
You can’t keep someone shelter, but you sure in heck can keep seeding the message, “You are loved”. God does not exile anyone of us in our sin. The love message is always present. When we are ready, it will be heard.
So, as we have now turn the corner with our family, and we can be assured God does for give, and allow for healing, let yours begin.
If God did not offer forgiveness then I guess, your unforgiven stand would-be justified.
Trust,… know there is a real faulty human in all of us, and we fall, get up and try again. When someone falls you love and love more, and when someone finally reaches for God, your reaching with them. Without God your a fool! The graces HE provides are essential. HE didn’t mess your world up, humans did with bad choices. We all have made those.
It takes all family members to heal the family and every piece relays the strength of every brick.
I know the hearts of everyone of my family members, their good and at times, just like me…. blind by old hurts and angers, and black and white. The world has many colors and families have many dynamics.
Forgive, and don’t re-act so fast to end your love. We all will need 70x 70 chances! (Bible)